Mother’s Day reading

Mother’s Day reading

There are many reasons to be grateful for mothers.

Nations rise and fall, empires prosper or crumble and men and women are stirred to greatness or driven to failure often because of their mother’s influence. “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.”

In the homily he preached at his mother’s funeral, Fr George Rutler evoked the debt civilisation owes to motherhood:

Thirty years have not dimmed my recollection of a night at the opera with my parents. We were close enough to see that the baby the soprano was holding was a doll, but when in a traumatic scene she dashed it to the ground, my mother let out a cry that could be heard by the prima donna. I was young enough then to be embarrassed. I am old enough now to know that such a cry has been the salvation of whole civilizations.

If having a good mother brings joy and happiness, the correlative is also true. Not having a mother, or having a mother who is not a good mother, brings sorrow and bitterness.

Doug McManaman’s mother carried those wounds, though she herself was an excellent mother. At the end of her life, as dementia slowly took hold over her, he was able to reciprocate his mother’s love and care by helping her heal those wounds:

I asked her — for the sake of something to say: “If you were to think of one person in your life that you need to forgive, who would it be?”

She thought for a few seconds and said, “I don’t know.”

“You don’t know?”

“I don’t know.”

So I thought for a moment and recalled a picture of my mother when she was four years old, dressed in a black tunic, ready to be sent off to the convent in Riviere-du-Loup.  “Maybe your mother?”

“My mother?” she said.  “Yes, maybe my mother. Yes, my mother.”

After a minute or two, I got an idea: “Mom, let’s try something. Close your eyes.” She closed her eyes.

“Imagine your mother.” She followed carefully.

“Now say out loud, “Mother, I forgive you.” I watched her face for about half a minute, not sure whether she was awake or asleep.

Finally, she moved herself to a more comfortable position on the wheelchair and said: “No, I don’t think so.”

I was stunned.

Read the rest there.

Sons aren’t always good at showing gratitude to their mothers. In the seminary, especially, I noticed that my friends were more attentive to my mum than I was. And many of them thought I was more attentive to their mums than they were.

I don’t know why sons are like that. But we are. It’s a good start to know it, so then we can fix it! Scott Hahn learned that lesson very early:

For all my newfound piety, I was still fifteen years old, and all too conscious of “cool.” Just months before, I’d left behind several years of juvenile delinquency and accepted Jesus as my personal Lord and Savior. My parents, who were not particularly devout Presbyterians, noticed the change in me and heartily approved. If it took religion to keep me out of juvenile detention, so be it.

Zeal for my new faith consumed me, most of the time. But, one spring day, I was aware of something else consuming me. I had a stomach bug, with all the unpleasant symptoms. I explained my predicament to my homeroom teacher, who sent me to the school nurse. The nurse, after taking my temperature, told me to lie down while she phoned my mother.

From the conversation I overheard, I could tell I’d be going home. I felt instant relief and dozed off.

I awoke to a sound that cut me like a razor. It was my mother’s voice, and it was saturated with maternal pity.

“Ah,” she said when she saw me lying there.

Then suddenly it dawned on me. My mother is taking me home. What if my friends see her leading me out of the school? What if she tries to put her arm around me? I’ll be a laughingstock. . . .

You can read the rest over there.

God bless all mothers, everywhere. God forgive us for not thanking them enough. And God give us the grace to be as generous as our mums are!

2 Comments

  1. Matthias
    May 14, 2012

    A day late but thank you Fr for this homily. My Mum died 7 and a half years ago. i was telling a friend that i still missed her ,when i found myself weeping. My friend said “yuo were close were’nt you ?” and i said yes. Dementia took her once active mind. But i reclal when she was in the n ursing home that a lady arrived with the eucharist and was distributing to the residents who were catholics. My mum became quite restless until this lady began to recite the Lord’s prayer. My mother stopped ,stared and then recited it verbatim

  2. Florence
    May 15, 2012

    Fr John, I guess each one of us have to be grateful for the life that we received from our mother. Everyday, I thank God for the Life that He has given me. On Mother’s Day, I did stop and think. I said a prayer for my mother and I thanked God for her. There are so many children in the world who do not have a mother to love and care for them. You do have a mother and I did. I guess, she is in Heaven now. I said a pray for the children in orphanages that God would send them a Mother and a Father who would carry them away home to love and cherish them.