Online dating

Online dating

This humble blog has been named in Catholic Dating Site’s 100 totally awesome blogs by Catholic priests. I’m joined in the list by another Aussie priest, Fr Richard Healy of the Diocese of Wollongong, who blogs at frrick.org.

The list is “arranged in no particular order,” but that hasn’t stopped a few Facebook friends congratulating me on my number 11 ranking.

The compilers of the list are good publicists. No one over there has actually read my blog — they’ve just plucked out a few of my main tags and described them out of context — but they have contacted all one hundred priests on the list and asked us to link to the list, “if you think that your readers may find it of interest.” Well, why not?

Here’s an explanation of their site:

Managed by Joseph Atkins, this site is the only dedicated resource for unbiased information and tips for safely using online Catholic dating websites. To achieve that goal, Catholic Dating Sites provides feature articles and blog posts designed to educate readers about the online dating options available to Catholic singles who are wondering whether trying a dating site is a good idea for them, and if so, which one to select.

Online dating is probably still a bit stigmatised. For example, I have prepared several couples for marriage who have told me they met online, but they weren’t exactly shouting this detail from the rooftops. They generally asked me not to tell anyone.

But the fruits speak for themselves. Online dating can lead to marriages. I’ve encouraged more than one good Catholic, who is fed up with the moral calibre of men or women they meet at pubs and nightclubs, to consider Catholic online dating. CatholicDatingsSites.net is a good first step.

Meanwhile, another Facebook friend has wondered if my ranking in the list “calls for a return to daily posting?” Well, yes. I have been slack. I’ll do better.

7 Comments

  1. Cathy
    May 3, 2013

    Online dating makes me cringe, not to mention the safety factors involved in meeting someone randomly from a dating website, even a Catholic one. I think people should pray rather than put themselves ” out there” as available, and if its God will the right person will be thrown in your path. People were married quite happily without the Internet in days gone past, a little trust in Gods will and he will look after you.

    • Fr John
      May 3, 2013

      Indeed. Though I’d add there’s nothing wrong with praying and putting oneself out there. Not sure it’s an either-or approach. “God helps those who help themselves,” after all.

      • Cathy
        May 3, 2013

        I agree Fr. John, well put!
        However putting oneself out there must not come across as being desperate though haha!
        God does help those who seek Him first,
        However the safety of mutual friends and connections are much better in my opinion than dating websites. There are a great many groups that have like minded people who know their faith, mostly outside your local Parish, but they they do exsist.

      • Catherine
        May 4, 2013

        Indeed both are necessary. To pray and to do something practical about meeting practising Catholics of the opposite sex. Prayer being the more important of the two. Unless you are blessed to belong to a parish or prayer group or covenant community which has a lot of people your age of both sexes, which in these days is getting rarer, then in order to find the future spouse that God has been preparing for you an online presence on a Catholic dating site worthy of the name is a real option not to be overlooked. One of the benefits is that you can say that you are looking for a spouse, and only candidates who are also looking for a spouse will make contact. That is half the battle! Much better than beginning something with someone who just isn’t ready yet to even start thinking about a marriage commitment.

      • Fr John
        May 4, 2013

        Hi Catherine!

        Are you aware that Google is flagging your blog as malicious? To quote verbatim, “Content from catholicdaily.net, a known malware distributor, has been inserted into this web page.”

        I hope you get it sorted. I’ve had this hassle a couple of times. I just pray you haven’t been hacked!

  2. Simon Hogan
    May 4, 2013

    Hello Fr. John and all your readers!
    I know people really don’t care but tomorrow is Greek Easter I will celebrating it tomorrow or should say tomorrow night for dinner with greek soup and red eggs and roast of course! Is anyone else doing anything special tomorrow? Well the catholic church celebrated St. Phillip and St. Peter feast day on yesterday it was Greek Good Friday I am guessing they were both in Greece!
    There would be plenty of Greek ativities happening tonight and tomorrow in Melbourne and around the world!
    Now has anyone been watching Bless Me Father still on seven two at 8am Sunday mornings.
    Has anyone heard of Fr. Geoff Hill he’s story was in The Age other day.
    I had great day at the races another day and great weather. Did anyone watch the Grand Annual Steeplechase I watch it up on the hill you can see all the jumps it was packed! I backed four winners. My mate John Wheeler won the steeplechase. Brett was his formeman before he retired but now Brett Scott is a trainer and still looks after all his horses in Australia at Mornington.
    So Brett Scott is good mate of mine too. He rode 4 Grand Annuals Steeplechases. Keep Well from Simon the Pieman

  3. Simon Hogan
    May 22, 2013

    Its funny when you blog about online dating because Australia Catholics manazine is has deleted the meeting column! I always have a quick read where people trying to hook up or just find a friend! I am not in a hurry find someone my day will come when I will. Just letting you know it has be deleted.
    Biggest Morning Tea tomorrow at the Mailors Flat Hall starts at 10.30am. I sure people love a morning tea!
    Casterton Cup on Sunday I might find some winners for the punters out there! I must add Fr. John your strike rate on keeping your blog up to date is good at late. Joel will be happy.
    Maybe Fr. John you might give a punters a tip for the races on Sunday you are on fire keep up the good work. We are very greatful! Now today two priests are celebrating 42 years in the priest hood Fr. Michael Linehan and Fr. Peter Hudson in the Ballarat Dicose we are very greatful for all their work over the past 42 years from the Murray to the sea! Thankyou to all the priest!
    Now finally Fr. John are you getting being on Mass For You At Home? Keep Well from Simon the Pieman.